By Aleah Johnson, Alumni Coordinator at
The Meadows
Setbacks in recovery are pretty much inevitable; nobody is immune to
them or their unforeseeable effects. They can range from major
occurrences, such as the loss of a loved one, to minor ones, such as
having a headache to the point where you cannot function effectively at
work.
We so often hear about icons—CEOs, musicians, artists,
politicians, etc. — who have given in to temptations; some have had
setbacks so big that it has cost them their entire career. But, setbacks
do not necessarily have to be a death sentence; nor do they have to be
an excuse for not reaching our goals and dreams.
Setbacks can be powerful catalysts for major comebacks. They can, for
example, put you in a position where you have a clearer perspective on
life, and even bigger drive to overcome your obstacles.
Stay Accountable
A setback is an event that delays your progress or reverses some of
the progress you have made. In the context of addictive disorders and
recovery, we also call this a relapse.
When you have experienced a setback or a relapse, it is important
that you don’t downplay or ignore what has happened. Instead, take
accountability, and try to make sense of the situation.
A wise somebody once said, "...you cannot conquer what you cannot
confront." How true that is! Denial will hamper any progress that can
come from putting things into their proper perspective.
Assess the Situation
Once we have studied our enemy (addiction) and understand it, then we
can be on the lookout for the people, places, or things that can put us
back into the hole that we are trying to climb out of in the first
place.
The best tool you could possibly have for avoiding a relapse is a
realistic action plan that will ensure that you do not find yourself in
places or situations that intensify your temptation to engage in
self-destructive behaviors.
When a setback or relapse has occurred, it is very critical that you begin to ask these very important questions:
- What caused the relapse?
- Can the relapse be traced to old, self-destructive behavioral patterns you slipped back into?
- Were there any other factors that led to the relapse?
Once you have analyzed the situation and have come up with a possible
explanation, strategize and devise a sustainable, preventive plan for
the future so that the unwanted behaviors will not be repeated again.
For example, if you relapsed by drinking alcohol during a night out
with friends, you might need to consider no longer going to night clubs,
even if your intention is only to dance and drink sodas.
Sharpen Your Relapse Prevention Tools
Here at The Meadows, we are very committed to equipping each patient
against setbacks. We make sure everyone leaves our programs with a set
of relapse prevention tools so that when temptations arise, they can
hold their ground and resist them.
If a relapse does happen, remember that there is always a second
chance: analyze the situation, put it into its proper perspective, and
create an action plan to prevent it from happening again in the future.
And, if you need a little extra support getting through the next
stage of your recovery, you can always call us. We have an intensive
outpatient program and series of outstanding workshops that help keep
you on track. Call 800-244-4949 or
send us an email.